Recently we were with a group of friends also had young children, between 2 and 4 years, and gave us time to talk about many things. Of course, they left tracks on the education of children and even the topic shifted to teenagers, one of them told us about a small family had been a "junk" and that arrival of adolescence got worse and ended in a reformatory, at which time another responded with a " if you need to know to set limits on time " and I thought out loud, without thinking much, " should we put more limits or more honey? . " They were surprised, and often commented that in many cases with major behavior problems (such as children hit their parents we see in "Big Brother") is that the kids have grown up in an environment with lack of affection separated parents, dysfunctional families, abuse in the couple or to the children ...
is true that children need limits to learn the area they can move and it gives them security, but is also very important to establish a relationship of affection, attachment, parent and children, and do not know if this is taken for granted or simply obvious. So after giving some back to the theme, I wonder and I wonder: Is it more important to make clear limits to establish an appropriate relationship of attachment?, when most problems arise when the limits are not established or not expressed enough affection?
My opinion is that when establishing a close relationship of love, setting limits is normal and not problematic, when the relationship is not secure attachment (whether parents have given no importance or that have not achieved for reasons of their own or foreign) to set appropriate limits is a task complex. Back to the beginning, before a behavior problem or an older teenage boy I ask: did you receive enough affection? Understanding the love on a broad concept to receive care, attention, spend time together, enjoying family, loving the language and express it in physical contact.
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